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Writer's pictureMarlou Strydom

Building a Strong Foundation in Romantic Relationships


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Entering adulthood often brings new challenges, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. Many young adults find themselves transitioning from casual dating to seeking something more meaningful and long-lasting. But how do you go about building a healthy and strong relationship that lasts? In this first entry of our relationship series, we will explore the foundational elements of a mature romantic relationship—focusing on communication, trust, and emotional maturity.


Communication is the Key to Connection

Couple Communicating

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. It’s not just about talking but also about truly listening and understanding your partner. Healthy communication creates a space where both individuals can express themselves openly, without fear of judgment or misunderstanding.


In the Bible, we find the story of Abigail and David (1 Samuel 25), where Abigail uses wisdom and clear communication to resolve a potential conflict. Her approach not only saved her household but earned David’s respect. In modern relationships, being clear, open, and respectful in conversations can help prevent misunderstandings and create a deeper emotional connections.


1-2-3 of Better Communication

  • Make time for intentional conversations.

  • Practice active listening.

  • Address misunderstandings immediately, don’t let them fester.


Building Trust Takes Time

Building Trust

Trust is the foundation that allows relationships to flourish. Without it, even the most passionate connection will falter. Trust takes time and effort to build, but it can be destroyed quickly if not nurtured. Building trust requires being reliable, honest, and transparent with one another.


Take inspiration from Ruth and Boaz (Ruth 2-4). Boaz demonstrated respect and integrity, while Ruth’s loyalty and dedication helped build the foundation of their relationship. As young adults, learning how to be dependable and trustworthy sets the stage for long-term, healthy relationships.


Trust in Three Easy Steps

  • Keep your word and be consistent.

  • Be honest about your feelings, even when it’s uncomfortable.

  • Understand that trust builds over time, so be patient with the process.


Emotional Maturity is Crucial

Mature Couple

As relationships grow deeper, emotional maturity becomes increasingly important. Being emotionally mature means you can handle conflicts calmly, understand your partner’s emotions, and don’t let insecurities dictate your actions. It’s about recognizing that every relationship will have ups and downs and knowing how to navigate these without becoming overwhelmed.


One example of emotional maturity in the Bible is Joseph’s relationship with Mary (Matthew 1:18-25). When Joseph learned that Mary was pregnant, he could have reacted with anger and rejection. However, he handled the situation with grace and patience, trusting God’s plan. This kind of maturity is essential for relationships to thrive.


How to Grow in Emotional Maturity

  • Practice self-awareness and understand your emotional triggers.

  • Don’t let insecurities or jealousy rule your actions.

  • Approach conflicts calmly and with an open heart.


Building a strong foundation in romantic relationships isn’t something that happens overnight. It requires intentional effort, honest communication, trust, and emotional maturity. For students starting out with mature relationships, these elements are crucial in developing partnerships that can stand the test of time. Just as in the biblical examples of Abigail, Ruth, Boaz, and Joseph, we too can build relationships rooted in respect, love, and emotional depth.

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